Lest we forget

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The flag soared on so gracefully, it had a rhythm to it, like it was swaying to some music that I couldn’t hear. The Kargil War Memorial, overlooking the steep valleys our brave hearts fought for, has a hauntingly beautiful charm to it. The silence speaks of so many stories, of lives that could have been, of promises that would have been fulfilled, of dreams that never saw the light. I could feel immense pain, lingering in those ice cold winds, of every mother who would never again get a chance to spoil her son, every father who regretted not giving his little boy some more time, the sister who would never get to fight with her brother over chocolates, the wife,now a war widow, who would never feel her beloved husband’s warm embrace again, the son who’s super hero wouldn’t play with him ever again and the daughter who wouldn’t be daddy’s little girl anymore. I didn’t know any of them personally, but the loss I was familiar with.

 

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I walked up to what they call ‘Veer Bhoomi’, looking at the tombstones, with little flags fluttering by each of those brave names, without even realizing it, I was crying. I cried for each one of them, I prayed for their souls to rest in eternal peace and I cried some more. I prayed for all those who were left behind and are now broken beyond repair. I prayed for the Martyr Families, who’s lives will never be complete again. I prayed for my own little family and I cried more, I prayed to the Almighty for strength, peace and light.

 

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I lost my father, Major SMK Ghori, in a fierce encounter with Terrorists in Kupwara, J&K. Today would’ve been his 55th birthday, but he departed 15 years ago. I was 8, but I’m blessed with a very vivid memory and I hold on to those few childhood recollections, very dearly. I remember Amma would buy us a small cake, and let us blow the candles, celebrating his birthday even when he’s not around.  So, today I’m going to eat cake, pray for his soul and take pride in being his little girl.

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55 thoughts on “Lest we forget”

    1. Very touching. Sufiya and Saif.God bless.It comes straight from your heart.Seen you grow over the years.How you took care of Saif.Giving him the support.Your mother Salma has been an anchor which cannot be matched.Wishing the three of you the very best in life.No body can understand a father better than a ” Daughtet”. Very well put across and so well articulate .My salute to your brave dad.

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  1. My darling daughter wish your dad was here today with you and the family on his 55th day.May Almighty bless him to be in the highest place of heaven.Some sorrows are forever some broken hearts never mend.love ❤.

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    1. Dear Aunty,

      Neither I have seen you nor do I have interacted with you ever, but somehow I wanted to reply to this comment of yours. You are one of those proud ladies. I salute you for your courage and living his (uncle’s) dreams. You seem so driven, so does Sufia. I have an inbuilt respect and love for all army men, women, mothers, fathers, wives, sisters, brothers, daughters, and sons. I am friends with many such people. Sufia is one such girl with extremely amazing will power and strength. She is very respectful and lively too. He must be proud of you, her, and rest of your family. I would love to meet you too.

      Love ❤ Take care.

      Best regards,
      Sakshi Singh
      Sufia's senior in Symbiosis School of Media & Communication, Bengaluru

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  2. Sufia, A feel of pain, love, respect and pride when I read this. Touching the heart to the core. Such brave hearts are always so supreme that one must consider themselves lucky to be associated with them. Not all live a life, but those who live after such worthy of life people depart, are braver. My respects to all those people, my respects to u. Shafeeq Mama and all those who lie down beneath the soil, u have risen to the zenith of pride. We no longer need to stare at the stars in the night sky, we can find them brighter, on earth, though hidden from our actual vision. Hats off !! Sufi. Way to go. Keep posting and set an example. Proud of u. Can visualize MAMA smile with tears of sheer joy😪

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  3. We all miss him too very badly.
    May you achieve success in your life and make him proud, as he made us all proud. May the Almighty bless him with the highest level in heaven.

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  4. We miss him too.
    May you achieve success in your life and make him proud, as he made us all proud.May the Almighty bless him with the highest level in heaven. Very well written.

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  5. Tears in my eyes too..I always feel a pain deep inside my heart when I think of martyr’s families because they sacrifice most important person in their life for us. Happy Birthday to your dad.

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  6. We miss you a lot Mama. I remember we used to proudly call you “Piku mama”. I still remember the excitement we used to have when you are around. I still remember those memories with you, especially the hockey stick you got me, the movie “Indian” we saw together, the kollegal trip, the elephant ride at Bandipur. Everything is still fresh. Happy Birthday Mama! Very proud of you and our Indian Army!

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  7. SufiaShehr Ghori, The Darling child of Mother India ,

    Lest we forget : Your unbearable loss while growing up from child hood to teens and thereafter ,was a sacrifice given by you -a most revered daughter of this country . The country will always remember your father for he sacrificed his life and the rightful care due to you as a daughter and his family , for the sake of unity and integrity of this country – Mother India .

    Beti – The country is proud of you, The country men are proud of you and your father .

    On his 55th Birth day We the people pay floral tributes to him along with you and your family . We too share in our thoughts , those beautiful little cakes of remembrance and lit a candle in his memory for you to blow with reverence on this day . pray for his soul and take pride in being his little girl growing up to be a responsible citizen of this country . Work hard & Do well in life and make him proud, will be the tribute you can give to your illustrious father Major SMK Ghori.

    God Bless .

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  8. Great sentiments, Sufia. This nation lives in freedom only because brave and committed men like your father, Maj SMK Ghori , fought and killed the anti nationals. I am sure that from the heaven of eternal peace where your father now lives, he will be smiling down on his own darling daughter. But, he also must be wishing that his “Little Girl” makes her friends and the nation aware that they have to continue his unfinished fight against the anti nationals who still want to destroy India- like the ones at JNU who shouted just that !.
    Colonel NK Balakrishnan

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    1. Ruqsar has not only penned a very touching and worthy tribute to her dad but has also highlighted the magnitude of the sacrifice of all our martyrs who never thought twice before putting their lives in danger while upholding the honour of our country and safeguarding its borders. Although sad that he is no more in our midst I feel proud Major Shafeeq was my dear brother and a member of our family. Shabana Nayeem

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  9. Dear Sufia,
    A brave heart who laid down his life in the line of duty lives forever in the hearts and minds of his countrymen. A grateful nation remembers such martyrs with veneration and utmost respect. You are blessed to have been his daughter and those who understand earnestly standby with you and your family….Colonel A S Chauhan..

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  10. Very touching indeed Sufia. I feel proud that the Almighty gave me the chance to teach the daughter of this illustrious son of India. We are safe in this country today because of the supreme sacrifice of our valiant officers and soldiers. Your father was certainly one of them. I salute him with the utmost gratitude. May his noble soul rest eternally in peace. Do well in life Sufia. Make him, your mother and your family proud. May the Almighty be with you, always, and protect you. Jai Hind!

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    1. Dear Sufia, what a lovely piece straight from not only your heart but that of every soldier, including me, who have faced these dangers, taken risks, lost their ‘buddies’ for whom no grief is enough. Beti, we understand your sentiments and salute your fortitude and the strength of your family who are still so steely and resolute in the face of an irreparable loss. God bless you and your family, carry on with the same resolve and prove it to the world that a ‘fauji’ child is a cut above – make your father in his eternal peace proud and all of us ‘faujis’ too. All the best, Jai Hind.

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    2. Thank u sufia & ur family for the supreme sacrifice of ur father made for this country. As a grateful nation we salute him for his services for our tomorrow. God bless. Col RP Rajan, (R).

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  11. Dear Sufia, I am very touched by your words about your Late father, Maj SMK Ghori, who sacrificed his life for the Country, fighting insurgency, when you were just a child. May his soul rest in peace. If you are in Mysore or come to Mysore, it would be a honor for me and my wife, to meet you and your family members. May God bless you all

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  12. God be always with you and your mom. This loss cannot be describedin words. Your dad was a spirited soldier. I had some pleasant association with him after my retirement at Amritsar.

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  13. Dear sufia!!! A tight hug to you!! Am so touched ,your feelings are right from the heart!!You indeed are Papa’s little girl who has grown into an intelligent lady!!! Hats off to your mamma for an awsome bringing up all alone!! Loads of love and blessings!!!

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    1. Dear Sufia,
      Pray for your father for peace. We all soldiers live for Mother land and our loving family. Your father is fortunate to have a daring child like you. You may not know, how much happy he must be felling when his daughter remembers him with so much love. God bless you and your family with strength, happiness and success this is what your father must have prayed for you.it is loving that you celebrate his Birth Day. It is wonderful you must do it as he is with you how can he leaves you, he is around you, close your eyes and you will find him next to you.
      Col AK Ghosh (Veteran)

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  14. we salute dear SALMA & your Brave daughter..May God bless you & young SUFIA always. May your husband’s soul rest in peace.keep the spirit up dear lil Sufia,Entire defence fraternity are proud of you .

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  15. The man who made us all proud!!! We do miss him dearly and always in our prayers…but the pain my sister and her kids have gone through every moment all these years can’t be explained…salutes to them as much as to my BIL….who was more a friend than BIL….loved his company whether its cricket matches or movies, planning vacations together or the TT round ups…i still remember my darling niece who has taken in hands to carry her fathers legacy forward clutched to my hands all along his departing time has grown along with her brother and carrying the mantle forward…may Allah keep you all blessed always and grant my brother a highest place in heaven…Aameen

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  16. Soldiers who lay down their lives while discharging their duties are always remembered with utmost respect.Through your touching lines you have made us realise how supreme is the sacrifice made by a martyr’s family.The whole nation is indebted to the martyrs and more to their families.We salute you Salma and Sufia.God bless you.

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  17. Your feelings are really touching. You have expressed them well but there are hundreds of other children, wives, mothers, fathers brothers and sisters who cannot give them out to remain silent mourners. The nation is indebted to our martyrs but there is a saying ” God and soldier are remembered in times of danger. Danger gone, god forgotten and soldier neglected.” Let us hope that not many of our countrymen prove its correctness.

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  18. Dear Sufia,
    Read your touching rememberance of your beloved father. Your mother takes the credit to bring up an 8 year old baby girl to this level where you are presently in. Full credit to you too for coming up well befitting your father’s total dedication. Your father would be really happy to see you and your mother doing well in life, from the heavens. I too join you to celebrate his 55th Birthday. I have no hesitation in saying that Almighty has given him pride place in the heavens.

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  19. No amount of looking after by the state can compensate for the loss of a family member, and the ungrateful nation that we are , we have totally neglected this segment of society.
    We can only pray to the Almighty to grant your family everlasting peace for the tragedy that you had to bear.

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  20. Braveheart Madam Salma,
    MY words fail me to express my thanks and sacrifice for your Husband’s sacrifice for our mother India. I am confident your brave son will take care of you and your daughter as best as his father was.We allvetrans of Indiandefence services will renmemebr the sacrifice of the brave usband of yours for ever.May theAlmighty bless his soul rest inpeace. Allour thoughts are with you and many other Veernaris who are more brave than al lof us, I salute you. Sethu.

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  21. “So, today I’m going to eat cake, pray for his soul and take pride in being his little girl.”, speaks it all. That’s the kind of attitude we all need to embrace in our lives. Needless to say, the loss of someone is never replaceable but how we keep that person alive within, is what defines who we are and what we make of ourselves. Letting the situation to carve us or whether to destroy us, is on us. Thanks for making us understand this simple yet immensely deep wisdom through your article.

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